As a child, I remember wishing my father would do X or be around for Y. I just wanted to be around a father who taught me things and was a role model. And maybe he was around for X1 and X2 but missed X3. (And I did not put that together.) Perhaps he did Z which I never understood or Q which I never realized. (Any maybe that is why he missed X3 or he made it to H because he self-sacrificed K.) Maybe I was being reasonable, maybe not, but I was always talking from the perspective of the child with the worldview and perspective I had been exposed to and achieved.
Now the shoes have changed and I see things differently. While it is not fair to ask a child to walk in his father’s shoes, a father has already walked in a child’s. Remember a child has yet to learn the other side of the story they are living. A child cannot comprehend the dynamics of a spouse, work, social commitments, and such that we have and tend to complicate or self-inflate to unnecessary levels of importance or drama. A joy of children is a return to the simplistic basics of life that has not been cluttered with the noise of adulthood. I always return to a simple theme: my intent is not to force a child into my world but rather to expand her’s and walk with her.